Lekarstwo na zazdrość
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- Author：Robert L. Leahy
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Summary
Czy zazdrość zagraża waszemu związkowi？
Pochłaniają cię zazdrosne myśli i uczucia， tak że nie umiesz cieszyć się bliskością z partnerem？ Czy sam jesteś obiektem przytłaczającej zazdrości partnera？ A może kiedyś zostałeś zdradzony i nie potrafisz ponownie zaufać？ Jeśli tak， ta książka jest dla ciebie！
Doktor Leahy proponuje przełomowe spojrzenie z perspektywy ewolucyjnej i przystępnie wyjaśnia， dlaczego odczuwamy zazdrość i w jaki sposób przejmuje ona kontrolę nad naszymi myślami i emocjami。 Oswaja nas z tym intensywnym， złożonym uczuciem i proponuje skuteczne， zdrowe strategie radzenia sobie z nim。
To doskonały poradnik dla par， które zmagają się z zazdrością。 Dzięki niemu zdołasz wyrwać się z zaklętego kręgu negatywnych emocji i zachowań， które niszczą bliskość i zaufanie， oraz stworzyć silniejszy， pełen zrozumienia i akceptacji związek。
Pochłaniają cię zazdrosne myśli i uczucia， tak że nie umiesz cieszyć się bliskością z partnerem？ Czy sam jesteś obiektem przytłaczającej zazdrości partnera？ A może kiedyś zostałeś zdradzony i nie potrafisz ponownie zaufać？ Jeśli tak， ta książka jest dla ciebie！
Doktor Leahy proponuje przełomowe spojrzenie z perspektywy ewolucyjnej i przystępnie wyjaśnia， dlaczego odczuwamy zazdrość i w jaki sposób przejmuje ona kontrolę nad naszymi myślami i emocjami。 Oswaja nas z tym intensywnym， złożonym uczuciem i proponuje skuteczne， zdrowe strategie radzenia sobie z nim。
To doskonały poradnik dla par， które zmagają się z zazdrością。 Dzięki niemu zdołasz wyrwać się z zaklętego kręgu negatywnych emocji i zachowań， które niszczą bliskość i zaufanie， oraz stworzyć silniejszy， pełen zrozumienia i akceptacji związek。
Reviews
Melissa Newell
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Excellent book！ Provides an in-depth exploration of this natural and common human emotion and guidance on coping。 Very well written， combining examples from his practice， research， and general associations to the different thoughts， emotions， and reactions associated with jealousy。 Helpful for both when experiencing these emotions yourself， as well as reacting to a partner who may be experiencing them。 Provides a “cure，” which takes time， practice， and support， and an overall understanding。 Over Excellent book！ Provides an in-depth exploration of this natural and common human emotion and guidance on coping。 Very well written， combining examples from his practice， research， and general associations to the different thoughts， emotions， and reactions associated with jealousy。 Helpful for both when experiencing these emotions yourself， as well as reacting to a partner who may be experiencing them。 Provides a “cure，” which takes time， practice， and support， and an overall understanding。 Overall， very interesting to explore more of this common human emotion and understand why and how we may think， feel， and process jealousy。 。。。more
Tish
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I came across this book in an anxiety book I was reading。 I am also reading The Worry Cure by the same author。Like most self-help books， this one was excellent in nailing what jealousy is at it's core level， but not so great in what to do about it when you feel it or see it in others。 I find a lot of self-help books to give advice something on the line of "just tell yourself this。。。"。 This rarely ever works， at least not for me。 If I could "just tell myself" something and that made everything be I came across this book in an anxiety book I was reading。 I am also reading The Worry Cure by the same author。Like most self-help books， this one was excellent in nailing what jealousy is at it's core level， but not so great in what to do about it when you feel it or see it in others。 I find a lot of self-help books to give advice something on the line of "just tell yourself this。。。"。 This rarely ever works， at least not for me。 If I could "just tell myself" something and that made everything better， I wouldn't have any issues at all。I really， really liked the history of jealousy itself， as it was presented as an emotion， just like happiness， sadness， etc。 There is so much negativity surrounding jealousy， the word， being labeled as such。。。 when it's a natural human emotion and deserves just as much attention as any other emotion。 Jealousy is seen in pets， children， between coworkers， friends。 This book made me realize it's not necessarily negative， just an emotion that has validity like any other emotion。 I would read this book again， for better insight and understanding into why it occurs， what to do about it， and why it's okay to feel this way sometimes。 。。。more
Tasche
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As much as I hate to admit that I needed to read this， it helped me a lot。 There are some helpful tools in here。 There is a way to make space for jealousy and develop a relationship with it that is not toxic， unhealthy or rashly reactive。 It does focus on cis and gendered heteronormative couples unfortunately。 I wish it didn’t really mention gender as much。。。 there are still important tools in here for everyone even though it is dry and emotionally difficult （for me） to read。 It validated my fee As much as I hate to admit that I needed to read this， it helped me a lot。 There are some helpful tools in here。 There is a way to make space for jealousy and develop a relationship with it that is not toxic， unhealthy or rashly reactive。 It does focus on cis and gendered heteronormative couples unfortunately。 I wish it didn’t really mention gender as much。。。 there are still important tools in here for everyone even though it is dry and emotionally difficult （for me） to read。 It validated my feelings and is helping me find a place for them that is not my entire headspace。 I’m sure it takes practice like anything else。 。。。more
Margaret
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Not what I expected。 did not able to my life at all
Les
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Very insightful This book hit home with me。 I am trying to better myself and the analogies in this book are easy to understand。 It is very down to earth and real world in most all aspects。
Angela Martinez
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Really great read！I love that CBT is used as the lens through which we evaluate jealousy in this book。 There are great questions and ideas in the book that allow us to question our own thoughts about behaviour that makes us feel jealous。Above all， there is an emphasis that relationships aren't perfect， which is the most powerful reminder in this book。 Our desire for perfection is what turns words and behaviours into threats。 Also， the idea that having compassion for yourself for feeling jealous， Really great read！I love that CBT is used as the lens through which we evaluate jealousy in this book。 There are great questions and ideas in the book that allow us to question our own thoughts about behaviour that makes us feel jealous。Above all， there is an emphasis that relationships aren't perfect， which is the most powerful reminder in this book。 Our desire for perfection is what turns words and behaviours into threats。 Also， the idea that having compassion for yourself for feeling jealous， and having compassiion for your partner for his own struggles， is a really great perspective to have。 。。。more
Luiz Fabricio Calland Cerqueira
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Very good despite being quite repetitive。 As I expected some laser beam cognitive approach to Jealousy， it was a glad surprise to find a more comprehensive book， that explored multiple facets of the relationship distinctions。 On the jealousy topic， per se， it approaches it widely， far from the simple misconceptions of common sense views typical in many renowned authors， whom summarizes it merely as basic insecurity or ambivalent attachment。 Good techniques， but I doubt they would really work/eng Very good despite being quite repetitive。 As I expected some laser beam cognitive approach to Jealousy， it was a glad surprise to find a more comprehensive book， that explored multiple facets of the relationship distinctions。 On the jealousy topic， per se， it approaches it widely， far from the simple misconceptions of common sense views typical in many renowned authors， whom summarizes it merely as basic insecurity or ambivalent attachment。 Good techniques， but I doubt they would really work/engage without the help of a trained therapist。 。。。more
Steph
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Well written， clear， and helpful guide for therapists as well as general public。 Nice evolutionary description of jealousy and specific examples as well as self assessments。 Clear， practical CBT and ACT-informed interventions to challenge jealousy and give someone a sense of autonomy in changing patterns of thoughts and behaviors。 Excellent resource I will be sharing with clients。 Also a hopeful book！One major downfall， and the reason I only gave four stars， was the author’s consistent use of st Well written， clear， and helpful guide for therapists as well as general public。 Nice evolutionary description of jealousy and specific examples as well as self assessments。 Clear， practical CBT and ACT-informed interventions to challenge jealousy and give someone a sense of autonomy in changing patterns of thoughts and behaviors。 Excellent resource I will be sharing with clients。 Also a hopeful book！One major downfall， and the reason I only gave four stars， was the author’s consistent use of straight and primarily monogamous couples in every example。 Reviewing the literature and providing an affirming book to all forms of partnered relationships would not have been hard （CHANGE PRONOUNS？！） and would have made this book applicable to more of my clients。Additionally， this book does not cover power and control， and jealousy as a primary emotion in that context。 This book is useful for adaptive relationships in which jealousy and attachment avoidance/anxiety are being experienced， NOT relationships in which abuse or intimate partner violence is occurring。 。。。more
Maria
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20191002 ◊ Brackishly heteronormative and singularly focused on monogamous relationships， but contains enough helpful suggestions and reframing techniques to warrant a place on the shelf as a reference guide for potentially jealously-inducing situations in polyamory and beyond。
CM
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I work as a clinical counsellor and I find CBT， the primary approach of this book， necessary but very limited。 There is also some over reliance on evolutionary psychology theory which is tenuous， as the ongoing adult needs for attachment security are crucial for psychosocial and emotional/physical wellbeing at any age （not just rooted in child rearing etc）。There are some good things in this book， which would be useful for anyone suffering with very intense jealousy alongside cognitive distortion I work as a clinical counsellor and I find CBT， the primary approach of this book， necessary but very limited。 There is also some over reliance on evolutionary psychology theory which is tenuous， as the ongoing adult needs for attachment security are crucial for psychosocial and emotional/physical wellbeing at any age （not just rooted in child rearing etc）。There are some good things in this book， which would be useful for anyone suffering with very intense jealousy alongside cognitive distortions。 For instance， outlining common jealous behaviours and counter behaviours is very useful。 The author does a good job also of validating feelings in general， although this could go deeper， and I feel some greater discussion of what are secure behaviours， and what is healthy/appropriate jealousy vs unhelpful jealousy would be useful。However， I think coupling this book with attachment based approaches such as Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight offers more insight into the ongoing valid needs for security in our relationships---and better validation of why jealousy arises and is an adaptive response to build secure relationships。 Johnson also provides better scripts on how to converse together。Each partner getting better at understanding what they need on a deeper level and communicating that better is key， as well as meeting their needs in ways that line up with their values。There are some good take aways and as far as CBT goes the author's tips are useful， and his CBT metaphors are excellent， I just think there are other crucial elements to jealousy missing here。 this is just one piece in a much larger pie。The book "attached" can also give some credence to the need for security in relationship， beyond evolutionary psychology。 The Harriet Learner classics Dance of intimacy/anger can also speak to some of these dynamics （although the language/intended female audience is a bit outdated）。 。。。more
Julian
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I kept having freak outs while workbooking my way through The Jealousy Workbook， so I thought this might be a lighter version。 I appreciated CBT being applied specifically to jealous situations。 I really liked how anti-pathologizing the tone was。 I never felt like I was jealous simply because I am insecure。 The message was more like， "It doesn't matter why you're jealous， as long as you want to change how much it's derailing your relationship。" But aside from a few visualizations and the list of I kept having freak outs while workbooking my way through The Jealousy Workbook， so I thought this might be a lighter version。 I appreciated CBT being applied specifically to jealous situations。 I really liked how anti-pathologizing the tone was。 I never felt like I was jealous simply because I am insecure。 The message was more like， "It doesn't matter why you're jealous， as long as you want to change how much it's derailing your relationship。" But aside from a few visualizations and the list of rules and thought-traps， this book sounds like it's written in the 50s by a pastor。 Like， there is not a single mention of anything remotely gay or queer。 Nor any acknowledgement that you might be jealous of someone who isn't your monogamous romantic partner。 Or any mention of anything like disability or LDR or kinks or poverty or anything that might contribute to a power imbalance or just a complication in how to process jealousy。 Like， whose partner "goes out for drinks" with their co-workers？ Is this Mad Men？ Honestly， the holier-than-thou blatant transphobia， homophobia， and ableism helped me to get through the book because I was sufficiently distracted to stop from freaking out。 But this author needs to attend a bunch of sensitivity training。 。。。more
Helfren Filex
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Interesting book with different insight of jealousy， a very good base book。
Elena
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Listened to the audiobook and it was very informative。 The book gave a lot of useful ways to deal with， and understand， those feelings。
Tiff
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Experiencing jealousy and it was eating me away。 This book cured me！ Of course cure lies within you but this book brought me to my knees and allowed me to talk to my partner with a sane mind and work things out。 Thank you a million folds and more！！！
Austin
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Really lovely and helpful！ Made me feel less alone in a common， but isolating feeling--I'll probably be reaching for it again in the future for help！ Really lovely and helpful！ Made me feel less alone in a common， but isolating feeling--I'll probably be reaching for it again in the future for help！ 。。。more
Dorie
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Life changing。If jealousy is an issue for you， give this book a try。 My only complaint would be the constant toggling of pronouns - the next edition should use "they" and "them" instead of going back and forth between "him" and "her" - it was clear the author was writing for traditional straight couples。 It got a bit annoying。 It's 2018。But the tips and the analysis rang true and were extremely helpful。 Life changing。If jealousy is an issue for you， give this book a try。 My only complaint would be the constant toggling of pronouns - the next edition should use "they" and "them" instead of going back and forth between "him" and "her" - it was clear the author was writing for traditional straight couples。 It got a bit annoying。 It's 2018。But the tips and the analysis rang true and were extremely helpful。 。。。more
Miri
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This is a decent introductory guide to coping with jealousy， written from a CBT/ACT perspective。 Rather than just sticking with the CBT thing where you identify irrational thoughts and change them， Leahy also emphasizes learning how to tolerate or sit with your thoughts and feelings， as well as being intentional about how you act in response to them。 So far， so good。 Unfortunately， this book also has some notable gaps or oversights:1） Although Leahy notes that jealousy can come up in any type of This is a decent introductory guide to coping with jealousy， written from a CBT/ACT perspective。 Rather than just sticking with the CBT thing where you identify irrational thoughts and change them， Leahy also emphasizes learning how to tolerate or sit with your thoughts and feelings， as well as being intentional about how you act in response to them。 So far， so good。 Unfortunately， this book also has some notable gaps or oversights:1） Although Leahy notes that jealousy can come up in any type of relationship， the book almost completely focuses on jealousy between romantic partners， and specifically around issues like flirting or fear of cheating or being dumped。 Even in the romantic context， there are many other ways jealousy can play out。 Then again， the suggestions in the book can probably be applied to those。 2） I wasn’t a fan of the evolutionary/gendered stuff he includes in his explanation of jealousy at the beginning。 Leahy is more circumspect about this than many other psychologists and emphasizes that none of this means that we have to just accept jealousy， but I still don’t think it’s helpful to reiterate these ideas。 3） There。 Are。 No。 Mentions。 Of。 Same-sex。 Partners。 Anywhere。 In。 This。 Book。 All of the examples involve relationships that appear straight。 This book came out THIS YEAR。 2018。 This is unconscionable in this day and age。 4） I kept wondering if Leahy was ever going to address jealousy in non-monogamous relationships。 When he finally did， at the very end of the book， I wished he hadn’t。 It was in the chapter on infidelity， of course—in the section on commitment。 All he had to say was this:“Although some people agree on an ‘open relationship，’ in which both partners are able to be with others， I have seldom seen this work for very long。 Usually it turns out that one person wants more monogamy， more commitment。 So take a look at your feelings because， if you are feeling jealous， you may not be as sophisticated as you set out to be。”Again。 IT’S 2018。 This is not an okay thing to say anymore。 We have academic research on this now。 Stop it。 I would like to introduce Leahy to， like， all of my friends and myself。 5） The book does not address the ways in which jealousy can be part of an abusive control tactic and the gendered ways in which that often plays out。 Although the bulk of the book does focus on teaching people how to manage their own jealous feelings， towards the end there are several chapters on working together with one’s partner and there Leahy often repeats that both partners are probably contributing to the problem and will have to compromise。 I can see this being the case in the examples he often uses， where someone in a monogamous marriage secretly meets others for drinks or whatever， but sometimes， it really isn’t on the other partner to change their behavior。 Especially if the relationship is potentially abusive。 Anyway， the strategies here are good but the oversights are glaring and inappropriate for a psychology book being published in this day and age。 。。。more
Sandra
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One of the best books that I read this year。 I'm learning to stop being so jealous and finally get on with my life。This is a very interesting and informative read about jealousy。I highly recommend this book！ Everyone should read this book。Thank you Netgalley for this book。 One of the best books that I read this year。 I'm learning to stop being so jealous and finally get on with my life。This is a very interesting and informative read about jealousy。I highly recommend this book！ Everyone should read this book。Thank you Netgalley for this book。 。。。more
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